KidLead by Dr. Alan Nelson

There are few experiences more enjoyable in life than being well led, participating on a team or in an organization that works together with a shared vision toward a common goal.

Even defeat is less disappointing when it’s a part of a well-led team, just as victory is less satisfying when it is obtained amidst dissension, conflict, and dysfunction.
Most adults do not understand the difference between a young leader trying to explore his or her influence capabilities and typical, childish misbehavior. Leaders not given specific guidance often act out, causing friction in families, classrooms, athletic teams, and neighborhoods.
You’ll learn why teaching ethics in the context of leadership by the age of fourteen is so important. Moral psychologists believe that most character is in place before the teen years. Most cultures in history and the world have rites of passage into adulthood between the ages of twelve and fourteen. That leaves us a four-year window when ethical leadership training is most crucial. You’ll discover what this window is.
You’ll be able to show your child how to lead up and laterally. Very few books discuss this; most focus on “leading down.” Preteens and teens will need to utilize a different approach until adulthood or even middle age.
Your child can be a success in life whether or not he ever becomes a leader. Leadership may be the most overanalyzed and underutilized concept in America during the last few decades.
An aptitude is a fundamental wiring or orientation that gives us the ability to learn and develop a skill faster and outperform others in a specific area.
As with any other resource, parents and teachers are custodians for developing their children’s potential.
…being comfortable communicating is still different from being heard and heeded.
Even in their silence, leaders convey influence.
But everyday, scores of young leaders around the world duck into emotional closets in order to survive a world dominated by people who do not understand how to develop a young person with leadership wiring.
Just like adults, though, what children value most is having their voices heard.
Leaders, more than others, want to feel respected for what they bring to the table and acknowledge for their ideas. They need a safe place to express their gifts of influence, where they can grow in confidence and fail with dignity.
While all dads are men, not all men are dads.
Punishment discourages a child from expressing his or her basic personality. Discipline hones it so that it is appropriate.
When you intimidate with verbal threats or punish kids exhibiting outgoing creativity, you damage their leadership develop. When this happens with kids under age fourteen, you’ll usually find a child who becomes passive at home, wearing an emotional mask to survive around a parent. When this happens with youth over fourteen, you’ll usually have parent-child contention and ultimately rebellion in the home. The young leader can’t wait to exit the house and often does so as soon as possible with minimal looking back. Discipline, as opposed to punishment, has to do with self-awareness, self-control, and learning the reality of consequences.
Some misperceive academic excellence with leading.
Most programs calling themselves leadership are really more about parenting, community service, self-esteem, and character.
Strong, virtuous character is vital for effective, ethical leadership.
The goal is to develop leaders who are so grounded in good character that they don’t hesitate when making ethical choices while leading. Their inner compass directs them toward true north, so they consistently make decisions that bring value to others and benefit society as a whole.
Ultimately, you cannot separate who you are as a person from how you operate as a leader.
Remember, “pay” doesn’t necessarily mean money. Reward desired behavior.
See your child as a person who someone will someday hire, marry, and who will influence others.
That means we don’t see them as kids. We visualize them as future CEOs, presidents, community activists, and entrepreneurs.
Scores of miniscule regulations about eating, talking, cleaning, toys, television, and relationships are confusing. They can also turn kids into legalists who, when faced with situations without laws, will lack the ability to make ethical decisions. Leaders who learn rules over values are apt to finding loopholes and ways around rules that may get them and their organization into trouble as adults. Teach values and then help them identify situations where these come into play.
Even when followers don’t like a leader’s decision, they will respect the leader if they feel honored. Honor is vital to effectively confronting performance issues, differences in opinion, and personality conflicts.

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